I received a question about parenting. What is my opinion about
rewarding one child for a job well done in front of siblings? Do I think it’s a
good idea? I say heck yeah! My theory is most parents discipline a child in front of their other children, why would you
NOT want to reward a child in front of your other children?
I believe if handled correctly it can be a positive
experience for the whole family. The child that receives the praise or reward
for accomplishing their goal will feel validated and strive to achieve more goals. The parents
acknowledge the child’s success and set a precedent with the other children by
allowing them to see how awesome it is to follow through with goals, and it may inspire them
to set their own goals…if handled correctly.
As a parent I try to keep in mind that all cubs are not
the same, even if they share the same DNA. One of the amazing things about cubs
is they are their own person with their own talents, ideas, interests, and
dreams. Therefore, not all of their goals, rewards, or discipline should
be expected to be the same.
The great thing about personalizing reward programs, and
disciplinary actions per cub is that you as a parent GET to take the TIME to
know them, and do what's best for them. Finally, I believe they were put in our care so we can
teach them, guide them, and advise them, but the most important thing we can
give them is the time to let them know we genuinely love them.
But that’s just what I
think…
